Arguing of No Consequence

Most things we argue about with our children are of little to no consequence. Typically, they are our attempt to commandeer worship from our children, rather than obedience to us as an expression of worship to God.

Is it really necessary that your child finish all her broccoli? Is it necessary that your child obey in the split second you have uttered your command? Delayed obedience is not always disobedience. It can be. That takes a few moments on your part to pay attention to your child and see why they are delaying response. This requires that you know your child better than a parenting method or book. My eldest daughter is a very intense little girl. When she wakes up before the sun rises to when she struggles with going to bed, she is constantly moving. She is running. She is jabbering. She is observing. She is playing hard. When she plays with her dollies, she does not pay attention to things around her. She doesn’t hear the television. She doesn’t smell the aroma of bacon and eggs. Her surroundings are non-existent while she is playing in her little world of dolls. For me to yell from another room, “Dinner’s ready.” I should not expect her to drop her dolls and run to the table every time. She is a human being. I should treat her with respect and love. That may mean I walk into her room (ten feet away from where I am standing), get on the ground at eye level, pick up a doll, and play. Taking her face in my hands, I then say, “Darling, supper is ready.” Let’s go set the table.

Sure this take A LOT more time. But is it not a little more respectful. Perhaps we can train our children, like in days gone by, that when the supper bell is rung you have five minutes to get to the table. This would help you in your time management as well. This is merely, home management. Every system and organization requires truncated ways of leading. But it requires consistency and explanation. It’s not yelling one minute and dolly playing the next.

Comments 2

  1. The difference between theory and practice strikes again.

    Yes, of course, you are absolutely right….. but have more than one child, wait a few years and putting into practice that squatting down for ten minutes to play dolls and then cupping chins lovingly in your hands to let your little cherubs know dinner is ready, well, I’ve yet to see it happen!
    LOL!

    I agree entirely that (lovingly administered time management) is the preferred method!
    Although, even with that knowledge I’ve been known to shout now and then!
    Good luck!

  2. Great point, Expressmom. This is the first in a series of posts on the subject. I plan on addressing what you mention here. Thank you! for stopping by and leaving a comment. Come back and may we all as parents grow in grace and wisdom together.

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