Children’s Humanity & Obedience: 4 Questions

If we were spoken to by a superior–at work, church, public–in the way that many parents (superiors) speak to their children, we would decry justice. While it is true your child should obey your commands. Perhaps before you command anything you should ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is this command beneficial to the child?
  2. Is this command unnecessarily burdensome to the child?
  3. Is this command taking into account the child’s fatigue or emotions?
  4. Am I listening to my child’s cries, or am I speaking over them?

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  1. this really convicted me, thank you. I’m reading an e-book called “smooth and easy days,” it’s mainly about forming habits in our children, rather than nagging them. It’s very interesting and has even some scientific proof on how our brains work, and how important habits are.

    It talks about choosing a specific habit and working on that habit for six weeks or so. You teach them the potential habits by setting up the specific habit and presenting them to it, then when they fail at it…you ask questions and encourage in order to get them to remember the potential habit on their own. Really good stuff.

    As I have been practicing this, I have remembered these questions. Because the more intentional I am about forming a habit/training our oldest, the more intentional I am about what I actually desire for him to do. Your questions run through my mind as i choose to teach him one thing, or another.

    Again, thank you!


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