Some of you may have already seen this video milling about on the internet, but I wanted to share with you just in case and, perhaps, pull out a few pieces to reflect on.
This video shows the power of community in an unparalleled way. The rhythms of the stomping and beating of the chest show you that this group of men and women are unified. This kind of unity is rare in our self-identifying culture. Sure, we can choose whether we are going to be goth, emo, or any other flavor of the generation. But how many of us own the group to which we were born into? This submission to identifying with who you had no choice to identify with provides a freedom and identity for us that no amount of make-up or dress could provide for us. I remember I went through multiple phases of identity growing up. It wasn’t until I owned who I was born to be that I found great freedom.
As the group approaches the couple, I find myself intimidated for the groom! At root of this approach is the burning question, “Do I have what it takes?” If you haven’t asked yourself this question, you will…or you have an inordinate amount of self-confidence.
3. Stick Your Tongue Out
One of the most awkward things I found to get used to was a very strange thing to cringe at–the prevalence of sticking your tongue out. It’s not something I do regularly, nor those I spend time with. In fact, it is at that initial point of tongue wagging that most may say, “How strange!” and stop the video.
Once we have owned who we are, there will come a time we have to unabashedly own who we are. It will look strange and be misunderstood. How many movies have the cathartic moment when the person who has been covering up who he or she is (typically something to be ashamed of–like being poor), when this person owns it and reveals herself. How liberating!
Own who you are. Hit your chest and be accepted as the world looks on. Stick out your tongue.